Kismet: Reinforcing my Path to Social Media

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When you are following your true destiny, then the universe will conspire to help you…” – Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

The Inception of My Blogging Journey

I have been thinking about beginning a blog for several years now. I felt that I had something to share and thought that I was ready and brave enough to put it out to the world and have the world react. I spent time talking about it and thinking about it. I downloaded information and software; Copyblogger became my companion, sending me emails every day to help improve my blog. I was not going to begin this without adequate research and knowledge of how to do it properly. And as you know, research takes a lot of time and diligence.

I opened a file in my Outlook and each day I filed away what Copyblogger had sent me, keeping it all until I would have the time to sift through it all and make sense of it, learn, and begin my blog. Of course, I never did open that folder, but I did not terminate the service from Copyblogger because it would mean that I was defeated and was abandoning my blog idea.

The Paralysis of Fear and Procrastination

What do we call this? Fear, procrastination, and whatever label we give it, can be crippling. It is even more dangerous than outrightly saying that something has defeated us, and we are giving up. Why? Well, if we give up and articulate that, it at least gives us a chance to look around at something else we could do, start again in a new direction. But if we hold on to the original idea, paralyzed into inaction because of our fears, yet unwilling to articulate and come to terms with that fear, then we end up frozen, not moving forwards or backwards, just frozen in time. That is more dangerous and debilitating!

Embracing Social Media

I have had a secret fascination for social media for a while. However, I relegated it to the “youth,” a dot com thing, not for us older, more traditional people. We cannot get involved in this stuff, lest we look like teenagers. People will start wondering if we are going through a midlife crisis. Let the kids run around tweeting and Facebooking and wasting time because they would rather not live in present reality and have real human interactions; machines and virtual reality are more interesting to them. Besides, in my line of work, what has social media got to do with it?

One day, a man came up to me at my place of work and told me that he had started a Facebook page for my hotel. He said that he would get it up and running, and then he would hand it to me to administrate. Okay, fine, how hard would that be? Needless to say, when he finally gave it to me to administrate, it was so busy I had to relinquish responsibility to my company’s marketing department to manage it.

The Power of Social Media

People reacted so positively to this Facebook page. They shared information, pictures, and tips on local knowledge, giving other guests pertinent information that a new visitor to a destination would find comforting. It came from another guest’s perspective, not a marketing gimmick—real guests, real experiences. Further, they shared opinions about the facility, services, food, etc. The only difference between this and TripAdvisor is that the people on this Facebook page were fans of the hotel; they loved the place and marketed it for free with a zeal that ten marketing teams could not accomplish. People out there, especially those who had never been to the hotel, used this as a conduit for information. I was amazed and overwhelmed! Social media: how everyone embraced it and relied on it as a source of information and sharing of experiences.

My Transformation

Luckily, my company was more enlightened than I was on social media and its benefits; they embraced it fully. Currently, they have a Facebook page for every one of the properties, each as successful as the next. Guests have found a forum to share information and share their travels and great experiences. Social media marketing at its best!

A New Beginning

So, I am now convinced, and with my very recent encounter with inspiration in Kipungani, where I came face to face with my destiny, I embark on this journey and hope you will come along with me. Enjoy it with me, cry with me, and be still with me, as the mood requires. Life is ever-changing, and we must embrace that change to move forward. This is my journey. Please join me, share with me, teach me. Let us begin a dance, a romance, one so profound that we will be forever changed by knowing each other!


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Bad Days!

“Be in love with your life, every minute of it” Jack Kerouac

 I have really struggled with this piece. All week-long I was waiting for some inspiration, a word or phrase or something to spark enough interest to enable me to write for the week. Nada! Continue reading

Keeping up with the Joneses

As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them. John F. Kennedy

Gratitude: according to definition, this is the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.  The origin of the word is Latin Gratus which means to be pleasing, thankful. Interestingly enough in my little research I discovered that the word has been used less and less through the years from 1800’s to 2010. What does that mean, are we less grateful now, or do we just use other words to describe the same thing? Go figure.

I break down the word to great and attitude, though as shown above this is not the true meaning of the word, I think to have gratitude, one must have a great attitude so it is fitting right? My understanding of the word is to be thankful of one’s situation and plight, to pay attention to what you are and have and not to dwell on what you lack.

This brings to mind a saying I heard a lot while growing up “keeping up with the Joneses”, meaning always striving to be more or better than your neighbour.  Unfortunately this is the way that many of us are choosing to live today; some of us are so busy competing with the neighbour, attempting to acquire what the neighbour has, living the life that our neighbour lives, that we lose sight of who we truly are and what we already have.  I don’t believe that it is possible to be happy in a life of “keeping up” because the Jones’s make their decisions based on their own values, what they love, what they are capable of, whilst those “keeping up”  are there making the decisions so as not to be left behind and seem less than the Jones’s.  The choices made; to buy a new car, acquire a new house or take a vacation are not truly governed by your own internal desires and choice, therefore after you have acquired all that enables you to believe you are equal or even superior to the Jones’s  you will find that you will not enjoy it.  You are left empty trying to live someone else’s life and attempting to attain someone else’s dreams; completely unfulfilling to you.  Bringing me to wonder, when you are so busy “keeping up with the Joneses” who is living your life? Fulfilling your destiny? What a sad state of existence.

Having gratitude is about accepting your situation and being thankful for all that you have, this does not mean complacency nor is it to encourage you to wallow in mediocrity, no, it is  in my opinion more about looking around you, taking stock of who you are and what have accomplished and appreciating that.  No matter how little it is, consider it a step towards fulfilling your destiny.  It should serve as encouragement for you to forge ahead, irrespective of challenges you face.  This is your springboard to the next level.  Once you appreciate what you have in the present, then you can make plans to achieve more and better in the future.  This should not be motivated by competition with neighbours or by others perception of how you choose to live your life.  It should be done in keeping with your individual values and drive. Always follow your passions towards your destiny; ensure those passions are in sync with your psyche and feel good in your soul.

Gratitude means we can achieve all the blessings bestowed upon each of us, another step to happiness.  We all have reasons to be grateful and we should embrace those reasons so as to attract more towards us.  If we do not know how to appreciate what we have, do we really know who we are and where we are going?

A Leap of Faith!

“By leaving your comfort zone behind and taking a leap of faith into something new, you find out who are truly capable of becoming”

Unknown quotes

I have a friend, one who is so vivacious in her speech that when she speaks her words turn into a kaleidoscope of colors and images.  She can in a sentence transport you to where she is describing as though you were in a 3-D movie set, watching the movie happening around you. Continue reading